I firmly do not believe in casual dating. It's better to have a few significant relationships than a ton of casual whatevers.Esquire Fox wrote:Dating is one of our silliest cultural expectations. All the effort you spend towards trying to forge a relationship with someone you just met could be better spent making friends.
Good friends are open and honest with one another. You don't have to worry about many of the negative aspects of relationships or meeting any gender-assigned expectations.
As your friendship with someone deepens, whatever gender they may be, you could then start a relationship or perhaps just decide to live together.
I really wish society worked like that.
Have you ever heard the phrase of, "a relationship without friendship is like building a mansion upon the sand"? A good relationship involves two people being open and honest together as well; communication is key for any good relationship. I haven't ever dated someone I couldn't be friends with. Also, worrying about negative aspects of a relationship is like having a fear of driving because you might blow out a tire. Of course one is taking a big risk, but that shouldn't completely hinder a person from living their life.
And believe me, I'm all for breaking gender expectations, but there are some things that are indoctrinated into everyone.
Ultimately, people have to achieve a sense of balance in their lives before they can really be in a relationship. So there's nothing wrong with being single.
Also, sorry about complaining to everyone last night. I really thought I had known the guy I was dating, but I've been seeing a really, really ugly side of him that I never knew he had. It's complicated and I'm not going to talk about it to the full extent.