Hey guys... We need to talk about this...
Posted: Mon Aug 13, 2012 8:14 pm
So... This is a bit upsetting to me...
So... There have been a couple of problems lately which I can't really get into, and Dissension told me that posting about it here might be a good idea. The problem I'm having is that, despite my constant insistence that I'm a wacky, fun guy who you can come to for anything, people seem to see me as being "strict" or confrontational, like they can't question or confront me. This is bad, because I'm honestly just a roleplaying section member, just like you, who is just trying to keep everyone happy and everything running smoothly: I don't want anyone to feel like the moderator position means they can't talk to me like a regular person.
This is actually why I keep asking everyone to talk to me over IRC, IM, and Skype: when you get me on there, it's pretty obvious that I'm not strict or mean in any way. I'm like Sid: I actually do have a problem with not sounding WAY more abrasive than I mean to be, and while I try to be friendly, I notice it doesn't come across that way as well as I like. The truth is that no post you ever read from me has been ever or will be angry or anything like that: I'm not that sort of person, even if I sound like it sometimes.
The truth is I don't even CARE too much about the forum rules. None of the forums I've owned myself had rules about swearing or anything like that, just the normal "no fighting" and "don't be stupid" stuff. I'm perfectly willing to enforce whatever Rick expects from us for being on his site, and I know that there are plenty of you who appreciate the "safe environment", but I'm not going to get angry with anyone for accidentally breaking them. Remember, I have a couple of the more raunchy characters on the site: I know it's hard not to push the rating too far. I'm not here to get anyone in trouble, I'm just here to keep them out of trouble: that's why I popped in that one time in Applegate, I just wanted to make sure you weren't about to push the rating too far without realizing it, because I didn't want anyone to get in trouble. I HATE having to deal out any sort of negative consequences, and consider it a success that I've managed not to so far, and I intend to keep it that way.
And despite Dissension's insistence to the contrary, I DON'T mind when people question or criticize what I do, in fact, I'd rather you tell me exactly how you feel about any bad decisions I've made. No one's getting in trouble just for questioning my judgement. You can all feel free to tell me if I'm getting too intrusive or insistent, especially about things like getting on Skype or not playing something a certain way, which isn't even me talking as a mod, just someone who has to read through every single post made in the section. (yeah, I actually do that, and I kind of enjoy the more interesting bits)
The main point that I'm trying to get at here though, is that I'm the same guy I was before I got the position, and I'd like you all to keep treating me that way, rather than worrying that I'm going to do something if you "step out of line" or anything like that...
Also, stop worrying about Dissension already. He's not gonna start banning anyone from the forums any time soon, and is almost as laid back as me. He's just hanging around in the OOC to make sure we're doing a good job as moderators, and I've been talking to him alot about not calling out what I've already brought up...
So... There have been a couple of problems lately which I can't really get into, and Dissension told me that posting about it here might be a good idea. The problem I'm having is that, despite my constant insistence that I'm a wacky, fun guy who you can come to for anything, people seem to see me as being "strict" or confrontational, like they can't question or confront me. This is bad, because I'm honestly just a roleplaying section member, just like you, who is just trying to keep everyone happy and everything running smoothly: I don't want anyone to feel like the moderator position means they can't talk to me like a regular person.
This is actually why I keep asking everyone to talk to me over IRC, IM, and Skype: when you get me on there, it's pretty obvious that I'm not strict or mean in any way. I'm like Sid: I actually do have a problem with not sounding WAY more abrasive than I mean to be, and while I try to be friendly, I notice it doesn't come across that way as well as I like. The truth is that no post you ever read from me has been ever or will be angry or anything like that: I'm not that sort of person, even if I sound like it sometimes.
The truth is I don't even CARE too much about the forum rules. None of the forums I've owned myself had rules about swearing or anything like that, just the normal "no fighting" and "don't be stupid" stuff. I'm perfectly willing to enforce whatever Rick expects from us for being on his site, and I know that there are plenty of you who appreciate the "safe environment", but I'm not going to get angry with anyone for accidentally breaking them. Remember, I have a couple of the more raunchy characters on the site: I know it's hard not to push the rating too far. I'm not here to get anyone in trouble, I'm just here to keep them out of trouble: that's why I popped in that one time in Applegate, I just wanted to make sure you weren't about to push the rating too far without realizing it, because I didn't want anyone to get in trouble. I HATE having to deal out any sort of negative consequences, and consider it a success that I've managed not to so far, and I intend to keep it that way.
And despite Dissension's insistence to the contrary, I DON'T mind when people question or criticize what I do, in fact, I'd rather you tell me exactly how you feel about any bad decisions I've made. No one's getting in trouble just for questioning my judgement. You can all feel free to tell me if I'm getting too intrusive or insistent, especially about things like getting on Skype or not playing something a certain way, which isn't even me talking as a mod, just someone who has to read through every single post made in the section. (yeah, I actually do that, and I kind of enjoy the more interesting bits)
The main point that I'm trying to get at here though, is that I'm the same guy I was before I got the position, and I'd like you all to keep treating me that way, rather than worrying that I'm going to do something if you "step out of line" or anything like that...
Also, stop worrying about Dissension already. He's not gonna start banning anyone from the forums any time soon, and is almost as laid back as me. He's just hanging around in the OOC to make sure we're doing a good job as moderators, and I've been talking to him alot about not calling out what I've already brought up...