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Joy: The pain seemed to have leveled out over the night.
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NHWestoN wrote: Tue Nov 15, 2022 10:18 pm
Welsh Halfwit wrote: Tue Nov 15, 2022 3:56 pm
NHWestoN wrote: Tue Nov 15, 2022 3:37 pm Small plushies can be quite charming, and they're pretty relaxed, unstressing company. Theyll always let you have the last cup of coffee in the pot.
Suspects NHWestoN is, secretly, a small plushie.
Can't be. I'll always take the last cup of coffee!! ;) 8-) :roll:
Feeling burnt out at present but this brought a smile to my face, surreal and sublime, I have to say so far said plushie is very low maintenance and can confirm no beverage conflicts as of yet.

Glad you are feeling better Amazee.

Joy, have the log burner going and a hazy beer chilling in the fridge.
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Hope those get your fires relit, DDeer. ;)
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Sorrow: my brother was back under the knife this morning, threatened by internal bleeding and possible organ failure.

Joy: They turned it around and got him repaired. He's still unconscious but looking dramatically better than when this whole ordeal began twenty-four hours ago.
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Prayed for your brother.
Pray for those who have fallen away, to be brought back to God. To their loss they are crucifying the Son all over again and mocking him.
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Harry Johnathan wrote: Thu Nov 24, 2022 1:22 am Prayed for your brother.
For which, on this Thanksgiving Day, we are deeply thankful, Harry.
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Joy: I could get a few Cities: Skylines DLCs with 80% discount
I dunno, just imagine something funny here

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Hoping the best for your brother, Weston.
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May your brother heal quickly.
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Thanks, friends. Just got off the phone with his missus. He's still pretty much out of it but a lot better than he was yesterday. Healing is a process and, after this kinda surgery, you're processsing soooo much. Hope your holidays were a joy.
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Hoping your brother is on the road to recovery Weston. Glad the surgery went well.
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My OCD is getting worse. I did some bad stuff recently, I don't want to really talk about and it's a minor issue anyway, but afterwards I had these thoughts, these urges, this feeling that God was gonna "discipline" me by making sure I never finished a story i really wanted to write, and that if I didn't comply God would kill my mother and send me to Hell. I know that this sounds stupid and crazy, and I keep trying to work up the courage to defy my thoughts, but I'm so scared of Hell and for my mom's safety that I just gave into the thoughts, not wanting to risk it. And I feel really depressed right now, like, I just don't wanna do anything, I don't wanna write or draw, i barely eat and I sleep terribly. I haven't even taken a shower for days on end, there's just trash all over my room and I sit around on my computer, pestering priests for theological advice all day and in constant fear of demons and spirits that are supposedly after me.
Pray for those who have fallen away, to be brought back to God. To their loss they are crucifying the Son all over again and mocking him.
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Sorry to hear you are not doing so well at present Harry, I am by no means an expert but for my part I would say religion can be a great comfort but fearing a higher being is going to punish you extremely severely for every slight mistake or misstep you make sounds like a recipe for unhappiness to me and could end up in a vicious cycle where you are unhappy so you do something bad and then feel guilty and unhappy and so on. I think you need to try and take a step back and hopefully be able to see things in a more rational light (not easy I appreciate if you are not sleeping or eating well).

I have always thought the phrase God fearing was an odd one and maybe this is a case of taking that sentiment too far, getting advice from multiple religious (or other) sources on the internet however well meaning they are may just confuse you still further in your current state I worry.

These things can go in cycles remember you will not always feel this way. Take care of yourself Harry and don't be too hard on yourself, no one is perfect and any that claim they are almost certainly aren't.
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I want to be very, very, very careful here because I am not any kind of medical professional, Harry, but it really sounds like you are very isolated in your agonies ... and isolation in these circumstances is not good. Equally concerning is your sense of being immobilized, that you can't bring yourself to do much of anything. I devotely hope you can get some kind of assistance which involves face-to-face conversation with a trained counselor. I'm not sure what can meet your needs but, from what you say, pastoral counseling (at least from internet contacts) is not giving you comfort or reassurance. I dn't mean to be unhelpful but, truthfully and sorrowfully, I cannot help you. What I can tell you is there are those who can.


My brother may be going back into surgery again tonight or tomorrow. Complications, as they say.
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Sorry to double up, folks.

Brother's out of surgery after a couple of stents and a couple of major pipe re-works. Prognosis is now dramatically better. Whew! :D
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Sorrow: My family is organizing a trip for the younger children to go and see Santa and look at the lights in a pretty display but I can't go because I still am dealing with back issues.
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Harry, as a sufferer of OCD and someone who was raised Christian, let me tell you that Christianity teaches Gods constant love and he would never send you to hell or kill your mother over writing a story. In fact, he’d have put you on this Earth for you to accomplish what you are best at. Does writing that story hurt anyone? If not, then you should follow that dream. It may take a long while, but I believe you will conquer those monsters in your head controlling your life like this. And it will feel so liberating, but in the mean time, just don’t be so hard on yourself. The fact that you care this much about your mother says a lot about you. Just breathe and keep your head up.
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Joy: They finally took the 20 or so bags of leaves we picked up in our yards away today!
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Amazee Dayzee wrote: Tue Nov 29, 2022 12:45 pm Joy: They finally took the 20 or so bags of leaves we picked up in our yards away today!
Good-bye to Autumn, eh?
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Well my mother would rather have autumn over the season that is coming up next as she hates the cold and snow. :lol: But she probably prefers the summer more.
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Amazee Dayzee wrote: Tue Nov 29, 2022 9:00 pm Well my mother would rather have autumn over the season that is coming up next as she hates the cold and snow. :lol: But she probably prefers the summer more.
I know how the seasons read, but somehow I got it into my head as a child that winter began on December First. Today wouldah been a good candidate, though - seriously cold and yucky.
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Joy: It is now December so for me it feels even MORE Christmas-y. :mrgreen:
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Joy: black Friday Weekend is over

Sorrow: I have to go back to work
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Sorrow: My MacBook Pro got a new update but now it won't let me select text that isn't non-continuous anymore.
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Sorrow: Well, brother is back on the ventilator after an unexpectedly rough night. We visited him this anoon - pretty heavily sedated but still keeping up the fight.
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Keeping your brother in my thoughts, Weston.
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I am so sorry for what is going on with your brother Weston. I will also be praying for you and your family.
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Prayed again.
Pray for those who have fallen away, to be brought back to God. To their loss they are crucifying the Son all over again and mocking him.
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Well, that sucks, praying for you all, Weston.
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Thinking of you and your brother Weston, hoping for better news soon.
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Sorrow: Despite going to bed early, I still woke up REALLY tired and when I am tired I get depressed for some reason.
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Much gratitude for the prayers, friends. Had some better news this afternoon. While my brother's still on the venilator, they've cut back on the sedatives and he's frequently open-eyed conscious. Small progress, perhaps, but progress its is. :)
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Yay!
Pray for those who have fallen away, to be brought back to God. To their loss they are crucifying the Son all over again and mocking him.
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Last night, my brother came off the venilator and had a better day today. Not talking much, still BTS ("Beat-to-Stuff"), but he's conscious and watching the sports channel (good for the heart, right?).
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Great to hear he’s doing better. What sports is he into?
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Joy: I think I finally got a hang of the game Solitaire!
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MischaTheWolf wrote: Sun Dec 04, 2022 8:07 pm Great to hear he’s doing better. What sports is he into?
Patriots football ... which may not be the most healing activities to watch on a venilator.

And ... since you were gracious enough to ask, Mischa ... today was better. He's sitting up, doing a little physical therapy, and cranky as an Infernal. Still got a long way to go but this is a couple of steps forward. :) ;)
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Could be worse could be a Houston Texans fan. Glad to hear he’s doing better.
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Actually, I just got off the phone with his missus ... he's getting wheeled back into the lab for a CT scan to check on assorted organs. All part of the process, intrusive and interminable as it may be.
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My brother passed out of this world very early this morning at 1:00 am (in the morning). Femoral artery surgery is punishing at best and his vascular system was not in the best of shape to begin with. Things pretty much collapsed Thursday night when he went into a coma and his sytems began to flicker and light out. We put him on pallitative care yesterday and nature took its course over yesterday.

Richard was 68. We only saw each other episodically because I moved around a lot, but we did keep in contact. I'd seen his health slip over the last couple of years, so when he went into the hospital, I knew the odds were uncertain. It's kinda perverse to outlive your younger siblings but probably t'won`t be by much. Still, Richard had a good life. I'll miss him.

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Thanks to all of you for your kindness, your concern, and your Prayers.
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