Something you should all know about me.

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Tue Mar 24, 2020 2:22 pm

I am gay. I used to think I was bi, but a few weeks ago I realized I'm actually not attracted to girls.
I must say, I'm glad I've found a place that's so accepting of LGBTQ+ people such as myself, and I am glad to be a part of this community. Thank you everyone, especially my dear friends!

Amazee Dayzee · Post by **Amazee Dayzee** » Tue Mar 24, 2020 5:41 pm

Of course we are gonna accept you no matter what you orientation! The forum here is very open-minded and don't judge the members based on any silly idea such as sexual preference! You didn't have to come out but we will all still want you here either way! ^^

Post by **D-Rock** » Tue Mar 24, 2020 5:55 pm

Great to hear, man.

trekkie · Post by **trekkie** » Tue Mar 24, 2020 6:34 pm

We’re glad you’re here, my man.

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Tue Mar 24, 2020 6:39 pm

Thanks everyone for being so supportive!

Nathan Kerbonaut · Post by **Nathan Kerbonaut** » Tue Mar 24, 2020 7:05 pm

I'm happy that you're comfortable enough here to show your true self

NHWestoN · Post by **NHWestoN** » Tue Mar 24, 2020 9:26 pm

Hey, that's how things are in Babylon Gardens.

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Tue Mar 24, 2020 10:20 pm

Thanks Nathan and Weston! It's because of people like you that I feel safe on this site!

NHWestoN · Post by **NHWestoN** » Wed Mar 25, 2020 12:47 pm

Safe is awfully important these days, Foxi.

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Wed Mar 25, 2020 1:49 pm

NHWestoN wrote:Safe is awfully important these days, Foxi.

It is. And that's why your support means so much to me.

Amazee Dayzee · Post by **Amazee Dayzee** » Wed Mar 25, 2020 6:32 pm

I am sure we are all glad we can do whatever we can to help you.

JamesTCat · Post by **JamesTCat** » Thu Mar 26, 2020 12:27 pm

I have just found out about this topic and I got to say, I like you regardless of orientation.

Amazee Dayzee · Post by **Amazee Dayzee** » Thu Mar 26, 2020 5:44 pm

Orientation never really came into it for me. To be honest, I don't even UNDERSTAND what the big deal is to some people since people are people and they can love who they love if they are other people. The argument about what it leads to is ridiculous.

Vertigo Fox · Post by **Vertigo Fox** » Thu Mar 26, 2020 6:31 pm

I think Dayzee said it best and there's not much I can add to that. That it's not something I necessarily needed to know; and that even knowing it, it doesn't matter to me.
There are many places where the meat of a personality comes from, yes, but this is a question of what you are, not who, and I think it's very silly to judge a person entirely based on their what, just as it would be to judge them entirely based on what continent they're from or what year they were born. Or even on what reason their parents decided to wink wink nudge nudge nine months earlier.
Who you are doesn't have any more to do with those things than those things have to do with each other.

Amazee Dayzee · Post by **Amazee Dayzee** » Fri Mar 27, 2020 12:01 am

You know that is a very insightful and deep statement. I never really thought about it much. Great job with coming to that conclusion!

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Sun Mar 29, 2020 12:18 am

Thanks JamesTCat and Vertigo Fox! You guys are great!
It's nice to know that so many people support me. I feel a lot less alone now.

Post by **Sleet** » Thu Apr 02, 2020 7:30 pm

I'm glad you're comfortable with yourself. :3

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Tue Apr 07, 2020 12:07 pm

Thanks Sleet! You're a great pal!

By the way, I've been thinking about turning this topic into a sort of blog where I talk about my life. Does everyone approve of that idea?

Nathan Kerbonaut · Post by **Nathan Kerbonaut** » Tue Apr 07, 2020 1:32 pm

If the mods allow such a thread then I'd read it

Amazee Dayzee · Post by **Amazee Dayzee** » Tue Apr 07, 2020 2:35 pm

I think if it isn't against the rules it would be a good idea.

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Tue Apr 07, 2020 6:17 pm

Update: I just got the go-ahead from the mods(shoutout to D-Rock and Arcwolf) to use this topic as a blog. Which I am thankful for, because talking about my life helps me deal with my life.
So, you guys can expect more updates here about how my life is going.

NHWestoN · Post by **NHWestoN** » Tue Apr 07, 2020 6:41 pm

Sure.

Nathan Kerbonaut · Post by **Nathan Kerbonaut** » Tue Apr 07, 2020 6:55 pm

Great to hear

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Tue Apr 07, 2020 7:42 pm

I'm glad you guys are looking forward to it!

trekkie · Post by **trekkie** » Tue Apr 07, 2020 9:39 pm

Good to hear. Hope this helps you out some.

JageshemashFTW · Post by **JageshemashFTW** » Fri Apr 10, 2020 12:26 am

So, um... I hope you don’t see this as me trying to steal your thunder Foxy, but I figured it’d be better to do this here than make a blatant copycat post.

I’m Bi. I’ve waffled back and forth on what exactly that meant, but I’ve been in a pretty comfortable place about it for a few years. I don’t exactly keep it a secret, benefit of having a really supportive family, but I don’t get many chances to just straight up announce it. It always feels good when you do, doesn’t it?

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Fri Apr 10, 2020 8:42 am

It sure does!
When I'm in a place where I can be open bout my sexuality, I feel so much more free!

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Fri Apr 10, 2020 9:11 am

So... here's what's been going on in my life...
I was born and raised in a conservative Christian family, and as you already know, I'm gay. My conservative parents are constantly trying to separate me from both the furry fandom and the LGBT+ community. Every time I show signs of being gay or a furry, they yell at me, guilt trip me, tell me I'm sinning, and stuff like that. Now, I'm still a Christian, but I believe that a relationship between two men is acceptable in the eyes of God. I hope to move out soon, but unfortunately this virus thing just had to go and happen. With that being said, I'm not sure when I'll be able to get out of this terrible situation I'm in.

There is only one device I can access this site on, and that's my school computer, which is on renal from my school.(My parents blocked it on the computers we own last summer because its a furry comic.) I'm in 12th grade, and my school will probably ask for it back after I graduate. They might not ask for it until the end of the summer, but this computer is my only connection to you and so many of my LGBT+ and furry friends. I believe that I may lose contact with these friends unless either a: this virus pandemic ends soon(which, even being optimistic, seems unlikely to me), or b: I come out and tell my parents that this is the life I want to live, and I want my freedom. But if I tell them, I'm worried that they will force me out of the house before the pandemic is over.
No, ceasing to use this site is not an option. I've lost too many friends and even a boyfriend because of my parents. You guys are great, and I don't want to lose you as well.
I'm not sure what to do.

Amazee Dayzee · Post by **Amazee Dayzee** » Fri Apr 10, 2020 5:35 pm

I'm so sorry about the difficulties that you are facing right now Foxy. I hope you can figure something out at some point.

Vertigo Fox · Post by **Vertigo Fox** » Sun Apr 12, 2020 5:04 pm

Ouch. Nobody has any business forcing their beliefs on someone who doesn't want them, even if they're parents. I'll bet you're not the only person they behave this way towards....

I don't have much experience in this type of situation myself (only because I'm very lucky) so if I'm to say anything useful I'll have to predict what someone else's words might be. So with that in mind take this as the ramblings a well-intentioned idiot:

I don't know if you've already got an income of your own but even in an environment like this you can still look for opportunities. Be smart and look at the sorts of businesses that will still be operating during a pandemic, you know, food services, groceries, healthcare... delivering groceries to food services in healthcare... even housekeeping would be something if it can support you.
Work on your resume and start sending applications as soon as you can.

And start looking into apartments (or condos) as soon as you can too. Internet's a great thing right now. Maybe you can't apply to rent without that income but if you're ready at the starting line as soon as the pandemic begins to die down and you know what you want, what you're likely to be able to get, and what's available you can hit the ground running before anyone else gets the chance to snap them up first.

Treat the pandemic as a pause button on the world that will let you be ready to start getting on with your life ahead of the competition.
If you have gay/furry friends in real life whose parents are supportive you can try reaching out to their parents for their experience on these sorts of work/moving matters... failing that, if you think there's a way you can get the benefit of your own parents' experience you can always grit your teeth and work with them for the sake of getting away from them. Trying to be nice while keeping in mind that it is temporary and the rewards for your patience will be great.

But finding other supportive people does sound like it would be preferable. There are probably organizations around that could be a help to you as well, and even if they're not operating at the moment you can still get in touch with the people involved.

Basically, my advice for you is to use your problem as motivation to find solutions for it, and to be as ready as you can to use them as soon as you can.

OdedZeituni98 · Post by **OdedZeituni98** » Sun Apr 12, 2020 7:51 pm

my brain is very stubborn when it comes to not to do things I'm curious about and trying to forget scenes that disturbs me. I try anything I can but for some reason it keeps coming to me back like a boomerang.

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Sun Apr 12, 2020 10:21 pm

Thanks everyone for your support.
Seeing this cheers me up after the things my father said to me earlier(he said he doesn’t believe I have two working brain cells)

trekkie · Post by **trekkie** » Mon Apr 13, 2020 8:22 am

I’m glad we can be here for you, keep your head up, Foxi.

JageshemashFTW · Post by **JageshemashFTW** » Tue Apr 14, 2020 2:32 am

People always say family is the most important thing in life. This is true.
But it’s under the caveat that some people first need to find a better family than the one they have right now.
I hope you find your real family Foxy. I’m sure they’ll love you.

NHWestoN · Post by **NHWestoN** » Tue Apr 14, 2020 1:02 pm

My old man was not big on "positive reinforcement". However, I also noticed he often made disparaging comments about himself so I figured this was just his way. Part of his disappointment arose, I think, from the fact that he was a sports lover and I was athletically inept.

But I had other refuges - art, drawing, photography foreign languages - so I learned to steal time to develop hobbies that other people respected. My mother, also, was very encouraging. Secondly, I benefitted from very supportive teachers and from belonging to a Christian denomination that was pretty liberal and open-minded. Finally, since I was interested in history and movies and things that also interested my father, there were always things I could bring up for conversations. At best, we could share mutual interests - at least, he'd get off my case for a while.

Perhaps, Foxy, this drought we're passing through gives you some time to think about your future, not just what you want to do but how to go about doing it. You won't always live with your parents so investigate alternatives along with employment and/or education and/or enterprise. Eventually, this "sheltering-in-place" stuff will end. Be welll.

FireworkFox · Post by **FireworkFox** » Mon Apr 20, 2020 3:29 pm

Thanks again for the support everyone. I know I've already said that, but I mean it. I'm very grateful for you guys, and I'm honestly not sure what I would do without you.
Could you guys call me Firework? That's my fursona's name.
By the way, is anyone here a furry in western Pennsylvania looking for a roommate(preferably in Butler county)? And if you're not, do you know anyone who is? I would really like to get out of my current living situation.

Amazee Dayzee · Post by **Amazee Dayzee** » Mon Apr 20, 2020 9:32 pm

OK then we can call your Firework if you want us to. You just need to remind me because I may end up forgetting. And sorry, I don't live in Pennsylvania and even if I did I'm not looking for a roommate because I still live with my parents. I hope that you can get out of your living situation soon though!

Nathan Kerbonaut · Post by **Nathan Kerbonaut** » Tue Apr 21, 2020 5:12 pm

Firework it is then. If you're interested, you may be able to change your username if you ask the mods, but I'm not certain of that. Afraid I can't help you find a roommate, though.

NHWestoN · Post by **NHWestoN** » Tue Apr 21, 2020 5:59 pm

Seems like a tricky time to relocate, firework. Very good luck!

Amazee Dayzee · Post by **Amazee Dayzee** » Wed Apr 22, 2020 4:30 am

It makes me wonder how in the world we are gonna move once we get the house (or if the sale of the house falls through, find ANOTHER one >_>) since we would need movers since three people doing it by themselves with no experience is a disaster waiting to happen.